Parental Cleansing: I've used this term to describe something I feel truly exists within the legal systems of Canada, particularly where all Family Court Justice is concerned.
I would like you to help me identify what you think this term means!
For me, I developed the use of this term to describe what I feel has been taking place for a long time within our justice system regarding the lives of many Canadians who for a variety of reasons, could not afford a lawyer, or could not qualify for legal aid, or even if financially qualified, was not granted legal aid. These Canadians in the family court system were unable to access legal representation regarding the family court system when it was most needed to deal with custody and/or access issues in a family breakup.
The basic components of parental cleansing, in my personal opinion, occur as described below. The term (Parental Cleansing) needs two primary components in order to take place. I will do my very best to describe the basic process as I believe it to be.
Parental Cleansing in Canada is represented when the following circumstances take place:
(a) conditioning the child to believe the other parent is bad, does not love the child, is faulty, or a bad parent;
(b) implying or instilling in the other child how great it would be if the other parent were not involved in their lives;
(c) stating the other parent has problems and is to be feared or disliked;
(d) conditioning the child to dislike or react inappropriately, i.e. acting out against/with the other parent;
(e) involving the child in the litigation by telling the child things that are happening, or giving the child information about how bad the relationship/marriage was, or even undermining the other parent's new marriage, friendships, or relationships;
(f) advising the child they can tell the court/judge/lawyer they don't want to live with and/or spend time with the other parent;
(g) coaching the child to say certain things to a child's professional in an effort to affect ongoing litigation; or,
(h) failing to abide by custody and/or access provisions in existing court orders by denying access and/or sharing of information to the other parent.
While the above occurs more frequently as a result of actions by the custodial parent, it can also be done by the parent having access.
The court refers to this term as "parental alienation". I prefer to call it parental cleansing. The parent engaging in this behaviour does so with the sole purpose of cleansing the other parent from the child's life.
Simply unacceptable!!! Many child professionals such as Children's Lawyers, (from the Office of the Children's Lawyer), psychologists, social workers, counsellors and other child professionals are also suspected to be involved in the theoretical/suspected legal process of Parental Cleansing.
Please provide me with any information you may have regarding situations you may know of where fully licensed child's professional, played a part in the legal division of a child from a parent.
Especially if the information provided by that child professional was legally submitted to courts on behalf of the primary/custodial parent regarding the secondary parent, without that same child professional having performed a full evaluation of the secondary parent.
The above situational description is just a "basic" example of what is believed by some to be actually taking place today in many communities throughout Canada.
Please take the time to give me a description to the best of your ability what you think would best describe a situation where a term like Parental Cleansing would be best applied regarding a legal family court process.
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